I've been having discussions with my own mother about family history, and I'm quite shocked and somewhat shamed to find out that there have been some family secrets that were never let out. I understand everyone wants their privacy, to keep what they considered their own shame to themselves, and not feel others are judging them. In the year 2016, I don't think anyone is concerned about unwed mothers, it's just not an issue. But back in the 1930s, that wasn't acceptable.
We've been talking about family relationships, the distance between family farms or homes, and get-togethers that happened, or didn't happen, when Mom told me that grandma "had to get married". I wonder if that played an issue in how life turned out? After all, her husband Harold was 15 years older than her, and just a farmhand. I'm sure I've written about how I felt she was keeping secrets all along -- turns out she was! They were married July 20, 1935 and the baby arrived Mar 18, 1936. No long term planning of this wedding!
It's OK, Grandma, no judgement from me!
There are things we may never know,
but this one surprised me!
Harold, late 40s or early 50s.
Grandma liked to cut up her photos,
no idea who he's standing with, or where.
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